When is it important to be able to say no?
When you have a bad feeling deep down in your stomach about something and you know it's not right. It's important not to be bullied1 by peer2 pressure. It's also important to say no when something is dangerous, and especially if you feel like it's just something you wouldn't normally do.
What should you do if you want to say no, but are scared you'll hurt someone's feelings?
It's always better to tell the truth rather than lie to someone. In the next 10 days or six months, they're not really going to remember that you said no to them. They'll remember if you lied more than if you told them the truth. Just say it in your own words and as nicely3 as possible.
What if you want to say no to someone, but you're scared they'll get mad?
You could always write them a letter and explain the situation to them, or speaking over the phone is sometimes better. But whatever you do it's always best to approach4 the situation with complete honesty.
What should you do if you find yourself doing something you don't want to be doing?
You have to be honest and tell people you're not comfortable doing it. They'll respect you more if you tell them what you think.
What if you'd like to help someone out, but you just don't have time?
You've got to prioritize5. Like, if you have important schoolwork to do, that comes first. Just explain to the person that you have to do your work and you'll help them out if you have any time left over. But you definitely6 have to balance your friends and schoolwork.
If one of your friends says no to you, does it mean she doesn't like you?
No, I don't think so. If your friend says she can't do something, then she's obviously telling you the truth. It's probably got nothing at all to do with7 your friendship.
何时必须说“不”？
有件事让你内心十分难受，你知道不对劲的时候。切记不要屈从同龄人的压力。还有，当你遭遇危险，尤其是碰上你觉得一般不会去做的事情，必须说不。
想说不又怕伤害别人怎么办？
说真话总比撒谎好。过上十天半年，别人不会记得你对她说过不。你说真话她记不住，但你撒谎她会牢牢记住。想怎么说就怎么说，同时要注意策略。
想说不又怕别人发火怎么办？
写封信去解释情况总是可以的，有时候在电话上说可能比较好。不管采用什么方式，态度一定要非常诚恳。发现自己在做一件不想做的事怎么办？
必须老老实实告诉别人你做得不舒服。说出心里话，别人会更加尊重你。
想帮别人又没时间怎么办？
必须注意轻重缓急。比如，如果你有很要紧的作业要做，就先做作业。直接跟同学说你必须做作业，做完作业还有时间就帮她。不过，必须处理好友谊与学习的关系，这一点是肯定的。
如果有一个朋友对你说“不”，这表示她不喜欢你吗？
不，我认为不是。如果你朋友说做不了，她显然在说实话。这跟你们的友情可能毫无关系。
1. bully v． 欺侮
2． peer n． 同辈，同等的人
3． nicely adv． 好好地，礼貌地
4． approach v． 处理，对待
5． prioritize v． 分轻重
6． definitely adv． 肯定地
7． have nothing to do with… 与…毫无关系