shyness is the cause of much unhappiness for a great many people. shy people are anxious and self-conscious, that is, they are excessively concerned with their own appearance and actions. worrisome thoughts are constantly occurring in their minds. what kind of impression am i making? do they like me? do i sound stupid? am i wearing unattractive clothes?

　　it is obvious that such uncomfortable feelings must affect people adversely. a person`s self-concept is reflected in the way he or she behaves, and the way a person behaves affects other people`s reactions. in general, the way people think about themselves has a profound effect on all areas of their lives.shy people, having low self-respect, are likely to be passive and easily influenced by others. they need reassurance that they are doing "the right thing". shy people are very sensitive to criticism: they feel it confirms their inferiority. they also find it difficult to be pleased by praise because they believe they are unworthy of praise. it is clear that, while self-awareness is a healthy quality, over-doing it is harmful.

　　can shyness be completely eliminated, or at least reduced? fortunately, people can overcome shyness with determined and patient effort in building self-confidence. since shyness goes hand in hand with lack of self-esteem, it is important for people to accept their weaknesses as well as their strengths. each one of us is a unique, worthwhile individual.we are interested in our own personal ways. the better we understand ourselves, the easier it becomes to live up to our full potential. let`s not allow shyness to block our chances for a rich and fulfilling life.

　　论羞怯

　　羞怯是许多人不快乐的原因。害羞的人焦虑不安，自我意识强，也就是说，他们过分在意自己的形象和行为。焦虑时常萦绕在他们的脑海中：我给人留下了什么印象?他们喜欢我吗?我让人觉得很傻吗?我的穿着是否不吸引人?

　　显而易见，这种不舒适的感觉必然给人们带来了不利的影响。一个人的自我意识反映在他或她的行为上，而一个人的行为会影响他人的反应。一般而言，人们认识自己的方式对他们的生活的方方面面有深远的影响。羞怯的人非常自卑，他们可能很被动，容易受他人的影响。他们需要得到他人的再次确认：他们所做的是“正确的事情”。羞怯的人对批评很敏感，他们认为批评使得他们更低人一等。他们也发现自己很难因为受到表扬而高兴，因为他们相信自己不值得表扬。很明显，尽管具有自知之明是件好事，但过度自谦则是有害的。

　　羞怯能根除吗?或至少能减少些吗?幸运的是，许多人能通过坚决而有耐心地建立自信来克服羞怯。既然羞怯与自卑天生相伴，那么人们能看见他们的优缺点是很重要的。每一个人都是独一无二的，都有其价值所在。我们对我们自己个人的方式感兴趣。我们了解自己越多，我们就越容易充分发挥自己的潜能。不要让羞怯妨碍我们实现富裕而有成效的人生。