shyness is the cause of much unhappiness for a great many people. shy people are anxious and self-conscious, that is, they are excessively concerned with their own appearance and actions. worrisome thoughts are constantly occurring in their minds. what kind of impression am i making? do they like me? do i sound stupid? am i wearing unattractive clothes?

　　it is obvious that such uncomfortable feelings must affect people adversely. a person`s self-concept is reflected in the way he or she behaves, and the way a person behaves affects other people`s reactions. in general, the way people think about themselves has a profound effect on all areas of their lives.

　　shy people, having low self-respect, are likely to be passive and easily influenced by others. they need reassurance that they are doing "the right thing". shy people are very sensitive to criticism: they feel it confirms their inferiority. they also find it difficult to be pleased by praise because they believe they are unworthy of praise. it is clear that, while self-awareness is a healthy quality, over-doing it is harmful.

　　can shyness be completely eliminated, or at least reduced? fortunately, people can overcome shyness with determined and patient effort in building self-confidence. since shyness goes hand in hand with lack of self-esteem, it is important for people to accept their weaknesses as well as their strengths. each one of us is a unique, worthwhile individual.we are interested in our own personal ways. the better we understand ourselves, the easier it becomes to live up to our full potential. let`s not allow shyness to block our chances for a rich and fulfilling life.